Angelic Sight Newsletter #6

In this newsletter: 

+ What is a psychic cord? (Breaking the ties that bind)

+ Soul mate?  Soul mate?  Where for art thou soul mate?

What is a psychic cord?

If you've had a reading from me, you know that I'm very clairvoyant.  I see all kinds of visuals, guides, angels, spirits, colors, numbers, etc.  I also see psychic cords.  What is a psychic cord?  It is a spiritual cord between people who we've had contact with.  We have psychic cords to our parents, siblings, friends and co-workers.  These are natural cords given our day-to-day interaction with people in our lives.  These cords are harmless.  The most important type of psychic cords are those that are created in intimate moments.  There are two things that happen when you become intimate with someone.  First a psychic cord is developed during that union.  Think of this cord as an invisible string or thread that connects the two of you.  This cord stays between the two of you no matter how close or far you live to each other.  Second your aura (energy field) is now linked with the other person's aura. 

 If you are in a healthy relationship, the psychic cord and the linking of the auras serves to unite, support and create oneness between the two of you.  It can only strengthen your bond and commitment to each other.  It is a natural step towards combining your lives.  People who've been in a loving relationship for years have a corded connection and a beautifully combined aura.  It is an amazing sight! 

However if you have had many partners, you may find yourself psychically corded and linked to people you don't want to be linked with.  Most people don't understand the spiritual and psychic aspects of becoming intimate with someone and that is why they are linked to many people from their past.   

If you are in a new relationship with someone, trust your GUT.  If you don't think the relationship has potential, if you don't want to be corded and linked to someone, then don't get intimate with them.  If you aren’t feeling anything in your gut, then get a reading.  Each time a relationship ends, we need to do the necessary work to let go, grow and learn from the experience.  There are two reasons why it is vital to cut the psychic cord.  First, by cutting the cord, we regain our own energies and separate auras.  We need to become whole again.  This wholeness is necessary so we are ready to step forward into the future. 

The second reason why it is so vital to cut the cord is because you'll continue to draw people to you that recognize the energy of your old dynamic or old relationship.  Instead of meeting someone new, you end up meeting the same type of people as your ex and you keep repeating the same lessons and karma over and over again.  In this case, there is no growth just the same karmic wall you keep banging your head against.   

Often times when I suggest a candle ritual to cut the cord, release the auric ties and say a spiritual good-bye to an old relationship, I find that most clients are unwilling.  There is a resistance I feel in their energy.   

·         Is it because they hope the relationship will find a new life if they don't disconnect?

·         Is it because they can't/won't let go of the relationship? 

·         Is it because cutting the cord has the unmistakable note of finality to it?

·         Is it because intellectually we know the relationship is over and don't feel the spiritual work is important to do?   

Recently, I have had several clients who have ended relationships and started new ones without cutting the cord.  Did you know that a new partner can unconsciously pick-up on the connection that binds you to an ex?  We all know that honesty is important in relationships.  While it is good to tell someone that you have an ex, you need to be honest with yourself (and your new love) about the fact that you haven't cut the cord from that ex.  If you haven't been honest with yourself, does it mean you aren't ready to move forward? 

When I first moved to California, I read for a woman at a psychic fair who never cut the cord from a man she dated 15 years earlier.  She asked me about him.  I told her that he had married and moved to the Midwest.  She asked if she was ever going to meet someone new.  I told her that until she cut the psychic cord she'd never be able to really move forward.  I wrote down a ritual for her and explained how she could cut the cord and move on.  I also gave her my business card and told her to call me with questions.  I never heard from her or saw her again.  I'm sure she chose not to cut the cord.  I find that sad.  She could have let go, moved on and met someone wonderful. 

Over the years I've cut cords, separated auras and said good-bye.  Yes, it can be difficult.  Yes, it can be sad.  If you believe that some situations are not meant to be and that we are here to learn, grow and evolve as souls, then you can trust in the divine plan.  There is a divine plan for each of us, if we are open to it.   

When you cut the cord to someone who wants to still be connected to you, it is not unusual for that person to call you, contact you or visit you.   Why does that happen?  On some level, the person you were connected to feels the disconnection.  They know that they aren't tied to your energy anymore.  They reach out to you in an effort to reconnect energies.  This is usually unconscious and not usually done from a place of malice.  I call it behaving in a spiritually incorrect manner.  Maybe your energy is stronger or brighter than theirs and they enjoy having it mixed with their own less dense energy?  In any case once you cut the cord, it's time to become autonomous and heal.  You can't energetically support someone just because they don't want to exist without your energy.  We each have our own path, karma and journey to fulfill.    

A few years back, I remember cutting the cord, separating auras and saying good-bye to an ex and within days he was paying me spiritual visits.  His energy would show up late at night trying to reconnect with me.  I'd be getting ready for bed and there he was.  It was almost like being haunted by a ghost.  This went on for three or four days.  I was completely non-responsive.  When that didn't work, he called a few times and asked to get together.  I would not meet him.  I knew it was time to move on.     

Cut the cord? Don't cut the cord?  Considering the side effects, I hope you choose to break the ties that bind you.  I hope you choose to say good-bye to a past that no longer serves you.  You can choose to be free.  You can choose to see what the divine plan has in store for you.   You never know, you might just be pleasantly surprised.   

Soul mate?  Soul mate?  Where for art thou soul mate?

 "When am I going to meet my soul mate?  Where is my Romeo?  Where is my Juliet?  Why isn't she/he in my life now?  I'm ready. . .  I'm waiting. . .  What's taking so long?

 I can't tell you how many times I've heard these statements.  A hundred times, a thousand times, maybe.  We all seem to be on the lookout for the 'one' who will make our life wonderful.   We are all looking for our Romeo or our Juliet and all the pledges of love and devotion.  We want to omit, of course, the tragic Shakespearean ending.  We believe that the arrival of the soul mate will make the sky bluer, the sun brighter and life perfect.  Wow! That's a lot of pressure for one human being to live up to. 

For the last sixty years, movies have programmed us to believe that there is that elusive 'soul mate' out there somewhere who's going to make us feel complete.  One of my favorite movies about soul mates is the 2001 film Serendipity.  It starts off with two individuals (Jonathan and Sara) wanting the same pair of black gloves in NYC’s Bloomingdale's Dept Store.  Then they go to a coffee shop called Serendipity. (Yes it actually exists in NYC) to decide who gets the gloves.  From there, they go ice skating in Central Park and look up at the stars.  Sara writes her phone number in a book and says she'll sell it to a random bookstore the next day.  Jonathan writes his number on a five dollar bill and Sara gives it to a street vendor.  They decide to leave this chance meeting to destiny.  If they are meant to be together, the book will find its way to him and the five dollar bill will find her. 

The movie continues, several years later, with both characters engaged to other people.  With the impending arrival of their respective wedding days, neither has been able to forget the other and the magical night they shared.  Not sure whether to move forward and ignore the past, both Jonathan and Sara set out to find each other.  If you've seen the movie, you know that they reunite back on the ice in NYC's Central Park and live 'happily ever after'.  If you haven't seen it, RENT it!!  This delightfully funny, romantic comedy makes you believe in soul mates and in the power of serendipitous events to bring us together.   

If serendipitous events bring us our soul mate, why haven't we met that special person?  The timing isn't right, YET.  Yes I know that isn't what you want to hear, but it’s the truth.  If you believe in the divine plan, you'll trust that your soul mate hasn't entered the picture yet because you aren't ready for him/her.  When you are ready, she/he will be there.  It's that simple!!!  

What is a soul mate?  A soul mate is someone we've known before, loved before, suffered with before and felt joy with.  Yes, we've had past lives with them.  Sometimes we’ve had one past life with a soul mate and other times we’ve had many past lives with them.  Those past lives could have occurred anywhere in the world.  You may also have switched genders over the lives you spent together as well.  I know you’ve heard the expression, ‘the eyes are the window to the soul’.  When you lock eyes with your soul mate for the first time you intellectually know you’ve never met before, but your soul feels the familiarity.   

Many years ago (before becoming a dance instructor) I signed up for a ballroom class at a large NYC dance studio.  I arrived early and was told to have a seat.  I sat on the couch and like most New Yorkers gave a quick side glance to the person on my left and right.  When I glanced to my left, I saw a guy looking at me.  I gave a quick smile and continued to look at the studio dance schedule I'd grabbed.  What I didn't know (and I found out later on) was that the guy I barely looked at had a reaction when our eyes met.  He knew my soul and recognized me from a past life.  I, however, had no reaction and didn't recognize him at all.  Did I have soul mate amnesia?  No.  It was more important for his growth and learning that he recognize me vs. me recognizing him.  A month or two later (after we'd been dating), he admitted the feelings he felt on the couch.  I knew it was a classic case of meeting a soul mate.  I still hadn’t had the 'soul mate reaction'.  Why?  We weren't meant to be together in this lifetime.  We were meant to meet, learn from each other and move on. 

Another thing about soul mates that is never mentioned in the movies is that they come into our lives with baggage.  Yes, baggage!!! The reason why there is baggage is because you've both hurt each other in the past.  You may not remember your actions, but the soul remembers the PAIN.  This is why meeting a soul mate can bring you the highest levels of joy and also the agony of pain.  A soul mate knows you so well that they know how to get under your skin and push your buttons. 

If you enter a relationship with a soul mate it is important to do so from a place of openness and love.  If you agree to work through the issues and baggage, you can have a wonderfully fulfilling and loving relationship with him or her.  One of the most amazing things about being with a soul mate is that you'll be supported, respected and accepted 100% for who you are.  You may not see eye-to-eye or agree on everything, but you will feel them loving and encouraging you. 

Here's the most important thing about soul mates.  They don't always stick together.  They share, learn, grow and then usually move on.   Yes, I know that blows the Hollywood ending and the ‘happily ever after’ part.  An example of that would be the guy I met in NYC.  We dated for awhile and then we both moved on.  Did I learn anything?  Yes, lots of things.  Did he?  Of course!  Will we be together again in another lifetime?  Probably.  In this incarnation, we both had different paths to fulfill.  We had different agendas to meet with regard to our soul growth.  When I think of him now, I remember him as a wonderful teacher.  I hope I was a wonderful teacher for him.  I honor the lessons I learned from him.  As soul mates we had both contracted to meet in this lifetime, but we didn't contract for forever.   

What's the greater lesson here?  We need to change our perception of a 'soul mate'.  We need to get real about the Hollywood ending and the 'happily ever after' part.  Yes, in life you may meet that special soul mate and spend time with him/her, but down the road you may find yourself with someone else.  I don't think that ruins the fairytale.  I think it's about trusting in what God has in store for us.  Maybe in this lifetime you are destined to be with someone who will give you the highest growth potential on a soul level.  Maybe that person isn't your soul mate.  There's a saying:  "There's our plan for our lives and there's God's plan for our lives.  God's plan WORKS!!" 

I like knowing that a higher power is guiding me, shining its' light and showing me the way.  How comforting is it to know that we don't walk the path alone?  We may think we do, but we don't.  We're always receiving guidance.  We only need to listen.